The second first date.
Mention the big facts plainly and briefly, then spend the rest of the profile on who you are now. Everyone your age has a past, and a calm, short line about yours reads as confidence, not baggage.
By BUMIS Editorial · October 1, 2026 · 5 min read · 5 sources
37%
of adults ages 30 to 49 have ever used a dating site or app.
Pew Research Center, 2023. 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022.
24%
of Gen X singles have used AI in their dating lives.
Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 2026. About 5,000 U.S. singles.
78%
of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes.
Forbes Health and OnePoll, 2024. 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year.
Half
of single U.S. adults are not looking for a relationship or dates right now.
Pew Research Center, 2020. U.S. adults, 2019 survey.
Pew Research Center, 2020
Dating and relationships: Key findings on views and experiences in the US (opens pewresearch.org)National survey data on how American adults feel about dating today, including why many say it has gotten harder.
Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley
This Is Your Brain on Heartbreak (opens greatergood.berkeley.edu)Describes what heartbreak does to the brain and body, and why the pain feels so physical.
Cleveland Clinic
Life After Divorce: How You Can Start Again (opens health.clevelandclinic.org)Practical guidance on grieving a marriage, rebuilding routines, and deciding when you are ready for something new.
Eight questions about the last few people you dated. You get one of nine pattern cards. It runs in your browser and nothing is saved.
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